Femininity in Dating

My daughter shared a revelation after our yoga class a couple of days ago and I thought she was right on point.

What’s a natural way to approach dating for females?

Now a days, more and more females try to take the masculine approach by mimicking male behavior to directly chase after guys or ask guys out, to show assertiveness and to demonstrate that I’m a modern woman and I know what I want. I’m in charge. I’m in control of my own life. However, I do believe this is one approach which is to swing the pendulum directly from one side to another – a radical change in order to make a dent in the condition women were in for centuries. Sometimes, this is the only way it seems to correct the course of the collective trend of history. But on the individual level, this approach is a remedial intermedia progress, not the ultimate goal. This is not the ultimate solution because this is not beneficial to human as a race in the long run.

(1) This masculine approach does not demonstrate the strength of femininity. Women believe they have to become masculine (a mutated female form) to be in control of life and to enjoy life, which is against nature – females will become more muted in femininity and transmute toward genderless and toward masculinity. However this is not a development we prefer.

(2) This masculine approach emasculates men and causes the birth of a mutated male form, which is also against nature – males will become more muted and transmute toward genderless and toward femininity. However, this is not a condition we are trying to achieve either.

Here is my daughter’s proposal:

We should all go inward to find true femininity and masculinity within ourselves. As women particularly, we need to work on internally what we want in a partner at a soul level. Knowing what we don’t want is not the same as knowing what we want. True clarity in what we desire in a partner is the key to find a partner.

This takes tons of solitude and a lot of inner strength to cultivate, but I’m sure it’s worth the effort.

I admire my daughter’s clarity and vision. She nailed it.

Truth is often in plain sight, can be explained in plain language and simple concept, but also can be so easy to slip through our fingers like water.


taking a different approach

I have been trying to take a path that I haven’t chosen before whenever I feel like a change. This not only can open more options and make my world more vast but also bring me different perspectives of looking at life. No approach is wasted. Nothing is that serious – since life and death is not even that crucial.

I realized that everyone can afford to play a little. I do not need to do what others expected of me. Everything goes and meantime, I don’t have to let anything go if I don’t feel like it. Able to glide the full spectrum on a whim is real flexibility and confidence.


Can I Bend Time?

can I bend time?

I believe I can. Here is my story.

Sunday Feb 24 2019. 7:21am, I opened my eyes and immediately I was in total despair because I planned to go to the 7:30am yoga session. My first thought was evidently I would not be able to make the class. for an unknown reason, 7:22am, I suddenly jumped out of bed and wanted to try to make it. I washed my face, put on moisturizer, and then put in my contact lenses. Ran downstairs. Meantime, our dog Chewie was running down with me, because he wanted to eat breakfast. I took out his food (two containers: homemade chicken with carrots, and organic canned sweet potatoes), found a spoon in the drawer, and scooped out two spoons of chicken with carrots and one scoop of sweet potatoes. I dashed into the garage and from the dryer, I grabbed my yoga towel and sweatshirt first, put them in my car, and then grabbed my shorts and sports bra and two hand towels from the dryer, the water bottle from my car, ran back to the house, put on my shorts and bra, filled the water bottle, wet my two hand towels, fetched my handbag, dashed back to the garage and drove off.

It’s 3 miles from home to the yoga studio. 5 traffic light stops. 2 of the 5 lights were green. parked. grabbed car key, wet towels, yoga mat and ran in. Put my flip-flops and key on the shelf and walked in the hot room. The room was full. The long haired guy signaled me over to the space next to him, he and the guy behind me both moved their mats so I could have enough space to put down my mat. I stood on my mat for a few seconds to calm down, and Charlene (the instructor) walked in – “lights’ up!”

was it possible for me to complete all these movements within 7 minutes? if not, what truly happened?